You know what you want. You know what you like and don’t like. You know what you deserve. You know what you’re worth. So, why are you settling for less?
Every now and then I look back at various stages of my life – boyfriends, friends, jobs – and wonder what on earth was I thinking?
Why did I settle? Wait! I know why! It’s because I didn’t think I deserved anything better. That made it easy to settle and to take what I could get. After all, receiving crap is better than receiving nothing at all. Right? Well that’s what I thought at the time.
We settle for less in our lives, on our jobs and in our relationships. We even begin to rationalize it in our own minds. We accept day old bread and call it a filet dinner. I was very quick to put aside my own needs and desires and just wait patiently for a bone to be thrown my way. Whatever it was I would devour it up and pretend to be satisfied. However, I was dying inside.
Maybe it’s fear that keeps you quiet, unable to say how you feel inside. Maybe it’s just another defense mechanism used to protect you from hurt and rejection. But settling can be detrimental to your health.
I endured years of physical and emotional abuse in order to feel something. Anything. It was better than being alone. It was bad attention but, nonetheless, it was attention.
I had a job some years ago where the boss treated me like crap. Instead of getting out there and looking for something better I just endured. It took me some time to recognize my skills and how great of an employee I was. I finally realized that another company would see those same qualities as well.
Don’t sell yourself short. You are more than you could ever imagine. God has seen you as a finished product. Now it’s time for you to see yourself that same way. Start focusing on the awesomeness that is you.
Don’t settle. Just keep reaching for the stars.
